Every group has one, the sweet person who seems so polite and kind. It doesn’t take long to discover the demure person with all the sweetness is hiding behind a wall of pain caused by the unfeeling hammer of life. Of course you want to help. You and the whole group pitch in to make our unfortunate victim of life better off.
Now the problems begin. Our victim is no victim at all. She is a drama queen. Life has dished her one disaster after another. No slight goes unnoticed. You are now part of her support group. Your attempts to provide answers are met with one excuse after the other. If you fix the problem for the drama queen she can’t tell you, and you, and you. You fucked up a perfect crying game.
Before long the group has no tolerance for the drama and anyone standing too close suffers with the serial victim. Attempts to help financial problems only make the problem worse as any help is squandered or new money problems arise. It hurts because you care about people, but you finally realize you’ve been duped by a pro.
Identifying the Drama Queen
Let me be clear drama also comes from drama kings; the ladies have no corner on the drama market. At one time or another we have all fallen for the antics of people living drama one day after the other.
The worst part is how easy it is to get drawn in. Drama queens are always sweet and kind. Of course they have problems like the rest of us. They share their story just like I share stories here. The difference is their stories are meant to elicit empathy for their plight. By the time it is apparent, it is too late. You are in up to your neck and still sinking.Continue reading